tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8587170240696647383.post5941831743059089651..comments2023-10-09T13:00:09.085-04:00Comments on The Peculiar Treasure: How to Help Your Friend Who's GrievingThe Peculiar Treasurehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02994903702965040068noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8587170240696647383.post-23048374465170576712017-04-19T08:57:02.866-04:002017-04-19T08:57:02.866-04:00I lost my Granddad around 18 months ago and it wou...I lost my Granddad around 18 months ago and it would have been so helpful if someone had read this and helped me. Grief is such a strange thing, I tried to just bury myself in work, but that wasn't necessarily good as I forgot about me and didn't grieve properly until a few months later. I also live far away from friends and family, so I felt a bit lonely too and would loved to just have Annie Standinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08801890650518130123noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8587170240696647383.post-79986252106799049442017-04-10T14:15:32.768-04:002017-04-10T14:15:32.768-04:00My comment is on the second one from you :)My comment is on the second one from you :)The Peculiar Treasurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02994903702965040068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8587170240696647383.post-63327621322337566182017-04-10T14:15:06.722-04:002017-04-10T14:15:06.722-04:00That makes sense. Yeah, I kind of meant either one...That makes sense. Yeah, I kind of meant either one. That's why I also mentioned using wisdom depending on the friend. I know some friends want to sit, while some want a distraction. It really depends on the friend. But I can totally understand not wanting suggestions.The Peculiar Treasurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02994903702965040068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8587170240696647383.post-3639366724542824212017-04-08T08:35:52.127-04:002017-04-08T08:35:52.127-04:00ahh wish i could edit my comment haha - that's...ahh wish i could edit my comment haha - that's not to say you didn't touch on it in letting them grieve but i read that as in more of giving them space in their respective space - versus truly sitting in silence and letting them grieve around you if that makes sense?Rachel @ The Confused Millennialhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08548260893933070205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8587170240696647383.post-18415746170291394762017-04-08T08:34:32.927-04:002017-04-08T08:34:32.927-04:00I think the biggest point you left out is just sit...I think the biggest point you left out is just sitting in silence with them. I lost my best friend and my dad and I will say, nothing drove/drives me crazier than people suggesting things or making "band aid" statements. All I ever want is to say what I want to say or sit and feel the feelings. It's really hard for many people to sit in that type of silence, but it's so Rachel @ The Confused Millennialhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08548260893933070205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8587170240696647383.post-21793456553920406552017-04-08T07:13:19.678-04:002017-04-08T07:13:19.678-04:00I'm so sorry for you loss, Kristen! That is so...I'm so sorry for you loss, Kristen! That is so hard. That is an excellent point too! Thank you for adding that!The Peculiar Treasurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02994903702965040068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8587170240696647383.post-5109256020999477052017-04-08T07:09:38.164-04:002017-04-08T07:09:38.164-04:00Very true, Summer! And often we put that off when ...Very true, Summer! And often we put that off when we are grieving.The Peculiar Treasurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02994903702965040068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8587170240696647383.post-52679178194868209112017-04-08T07:08:51.713-04:002017-04-08T07:08:51.713-04:00Yes! Exactly! Thanks, Erica!Yes! Exactly! Thanks, Erica!The Peculiar Treasurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02994903702965040068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8587170240696647383.post-69760299941393309402017-04-08T07:08:29.507-04:002017-04-08T07:08:29.507-04:00Thank you, Candace!Thank you, Candace!The Peculiar Treasurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02994903702965040068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8587170240696647383.post-982742428042054152017-04-08T07:08:10.070-04:002017-04-08T07:08:10.070-04:00Thank you, Lecy! Thank you, Lecy! The Peculiar Treasurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02994903702965040068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8587170240696647383.post-66125679001365881612017-04-08T07:07:27.756-04:002017-04-08T07:07:27.756-04:00Thank you, Kirstie! Yes, it is important for them ...Thank you, Kirstie! Yes, it is important for them just to be aware of our presence!The Peculiar Treasurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02994903702965040068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8587170240696647383.post-82186414146381763332017-04-08T07:06:21.465-04:002017-04-08T07:06:21.465-04:00Thank you so much, Sareeta! I appreciate it! Thank...Thank you so much, Sareeta! I appreciate it! Thanks for dropping by!The Peculiar Treasurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02994903702965040068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8587170240696647383.post-30010531437846836332017-04-08T07:05:28.677-04:002017-04-08T07:05:28.677-04:00I am so glad! Thanks for that! It means a lot when...I am so glad! Thanks for that! It means a lot when I know that I have nailed! I can't imagine how hard that must have been :( But that's a good point. Just having someone to talk to is important too.The Peculiar Treasurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02994903702965040068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8587170240696647383.post-83042916175308357912017-04-07T22:40:43.943-04:002017-04-07T22:40:43.943-04:00This is very touching. Seriously cried. You hit th...This is very touching. Seriously cried. You hit the nail on the head. Especially letting the person grieve. I believe it is the only way to work through the pain. After I lost my sweet Spark, I tried to ignore the pain and pretend like it wasn't there but that only made things worse. For me, talking it through with someone was key. Even if the other person didn't say anything I needed to Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13416446933411502829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8587170240696647383.post-41122065747509981182017-04-07T17:44:54.378-04:002017-04-07T17:44:54.378-04:00Hey there Kristin! Visiting from the Pretty Pintas...Hey there Kristin! Visiting from the Pretty Pintastic Party. I love that you address how important it is to let them grieve, and not to try to make them be happy but instead just be there. So important. Thanks for sharing. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03305572159917005154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8587170240696647383.post-19956843024614246662017-04-07T15:11:59.647-04:002017-04-07T15:11:59.647-04:00I love the idea of just letting them know you'...I love the idea of just letting them know you're available. Holding space for someone when they grieve seems to be one of the best gifts we can give.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09099692775699851915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8587170240696647383.post-25850973356171703772017-04-07T14:20:30.449-04:002017-04-07T14:20:30.449-04:00These are great tips, Kristin. Grief is a hard thi...These are great tips, Kristin. Grief is a hard thing and it can make you feel all alone in your pain. It's always encouraging to have a friend there when you need them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8587170240696647383.post-10604000406350569342017-04-07T13:48:41.167-04:002017-04-07T13:48:41.167-04:00All great suggestions on how to help in a difficul...All great suggestions on how to help in a difficult and sad situation.candyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05082238123921950824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8587170240696647383.post-50604545021165618922017-04-07T12:19:19.475-04:002017-04-07T12:19:19.475-04:00What an important post. Helping them actually grie...What an important post. Helping them actually grieve can be so hard, but I couldn't agree more - it's essential. And self care!! Always!<br /><br /><a href="http://cominguprosestheblog.com" rel="nofollow">Coming Up Roses</a>ericaligenzahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08313758786680500536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8587170240696647383.post-56976539643896908142017-04-07T10:44:36.188-04:002017-04-07T10:44:36.188-04:00Encouraging friends towards self-care is one of th...Encouraging friends towards self-care is one of the best things you can do for them, especially through a season of grieving. Self-care is not an option. <3Summer @ Coffee With Summerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11656664579200438392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8587170240696647383.post-44614895377575566782017-04-07T08:56:01.516-04:002017-04-07T08:56:01.516-04:00I lost my grandma 3 weeks ago, she was more like a...I lost my grandma 3 weeks ago, she was more like a mom to me. I would include being there for them not just immediately after, but the months after. Society expects the grieving to be over it in a month, but there are no perfect start and end dates. It might take over a year.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10017082667907837090noreply@blogger.com