When Your Dreams Seem Unreachable ( + How to Keep Going)

Monday, June 12, 2017

Do you ever just feel tired? I mean really, truly, overwhelmingly tired? Tired of the struggle. Tired of the uphill battle. Tired of feeling like you are behind everyone else. Tired of unreached goals, unmet expectations, and the anxiety that comes with feeling like a failure?

Ask pretty much anyone and I guarantee you they'll tell you that they've felt these things before. Some may have only had a small time with these struggles, while for others, it's been a lifetime. But regardless of how long they are felt, these feelings cut deep and can become incredibly stifling if we let them.

I think a lot of people just stop once they feel this emotional exhaustion. They decide it's better to just settle in to "their lot in life", instead of continuing to fight against the exhaustion. And believe me- I get it. I get the tears, the frustration, and the seeming-hopelessness. I get what it's like to feel you'll never make it to your goals. I get what it's like to not know what to do next.

But friends, there is so much more to life than giving in, giving up, and succumbing to the exhaustion. And just because our dreams *feel* unattainable, doesn't mean they are. So if you want to know what to do when your dreams feel unreachable and you feel tired in every way imaginable, keep reading. Today's post is for you!

Do you ever feel like your dreams are unreachable and pointless? Don't fall into that trap! Here are three tips to help you keep moving forward when you feel like giving up!

Remember Your Why

I've said it over and over again, but this first point will never be outdated! Remembering your why when you feel like giving up is a complete game-changer! It's one thing to work hard at something that we feel like we want at the time. It's another thing entirely to have a true purpose to what we are doing- a purpose that goes beyond taking the easy road or giving up after a few months.
Knowing our why is the thing that will give us momentum and keep us going even when we are at our weakest. When we truly know our "why", dreams that feel unreachable won't stop us from getting back up and continuing to work hard.

If you don't know your "why", now is the time to re-evaluate. Are you on the path you are on for a reason? Do your dreams and goals have a higher, more important core? Or is this just a whim that you could easily replace with something else and be just as happy?
If the answer is the former, I think you will realize why you need to keep pushing forward. If it's the latter, then maybe you should take the time to find your something that does have a higher purpose.

Stay Disciplined

My friend Marsha of Faith and Fitness with Marsha Apsley said it well in her Instagram post a few days ago, that the truth of the matter is, knowing our "why" is only half of the puzzle. Knowing our why is the reason we should keep going, but we still have to take action and actually move forward. Knowing our why but not taking action will mean staying right where we are- in a hopeless, "I can't reach my dreams" state- for the rest of our lives.

In order to reach those dreams and goals that mean so much to us, we have to put in the effort. We have to take the next step, even if the next step is small. We have to put one foot forward and keep taking action on top of our why.

Maybe you haven't been taking action for a while because everything was feeling oh-so-very-pointless. But if you really want to reach your dreams, and your "why" really matters, then it's time to get back up off your butt and start taking action again. You will only reach your dreams if you work for them.

Don't Conform

The truth of the matter is, everyone's dreams look a little different.
I want to be a blogger like millions of others do, and yet my "why" is very specific and requires me to be myself and to utilize the gifts and quirks that God has given me. No matter how many people out there want to blog full-time, I still have to be me.

Conforming to other people's goals will not get us where we want to be. We can (and should) take advice now and then, and we should always be willing to learn, but at the end of the day, we have to stay true to our calling- not someone else's.

It can be tempting to cut corners, do what everyone else is doing, or try to find a "quick-fix", but when we know our "why" and decide to take action, it will often be very clear what directions, methods, and tactics we should and should not use.

Do not conform to how everyone else thinks you should be achieving your dreams. Be open to wise advice, but don't let advice from others be the only thing that matters. Stay true to your dreams and your why, and take action in ways that align with that purpose.

Friends, I know it is so tough to keep moving when all your goals and dreams feel like they are standing still. And I know that it would be easier in a lot of ways to just quit. But guess what: if you love what you do, have a deep passion for your goals, and have a clear "why" attached to them, it's going to be really tough to get those dreams off your mind. And personally, I would rather work hard for what I love than spend my time fighting off and trying to stifle a passion for the dreams I've chased for so long. But you have to choose for yourself- no one can do it for you.


  1. "Everyone's dreams look a little different" -- I think that's really key. I think for me I sometimes struggle with knowing how far I should go with pursuing a dream--how to tell when set backs are temporary or when they are a sign that God is closing the door and wants you to dream in a different direction. Trying to grow our family has been the most difficult and heartbreaking dream I've ever had...but considering that the creation of life is ultimately in God's hands, there's only so far I can work, for the rest, I have to trust and rest in Him.

  2. I needed this today, friend! Love you! So very thankful to have you in my life!

  3. Thank you for this post! It was a really encouraging and much needed push for me!

  4. I absolutely love your advice about knowing your "why" - and I think it's also important for people to remember that your "why" should be something truly deep, and it may have layers. For me, I want to be able to provide a comfortable life for my family, but I'm also living with chronic illnesses, so I have to be able to do that from home, with a very flexible schedule, and in a way that can include my little munchkin. I think I had lost sight of that until I read this post. Thank you for reminding me!

  5. Love this! Remembering why you do it will keep you focused and constantly feeding your mindset will give you the ammo to not give up. Thanks so much for an awesome post!

  6. Staying disciplined and taking action is where struggle. I know my why, but the next step is so hard! Thank you so much for the encouragement!

  7. Thanks for the encouragement Kristin (and the mention!). It's tough to keep going some days but gotta trust the process and know that we're being obedient to the calling!

  8. I loved this and needed to read it today! Staying disciplined is key!

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  10. I love this! I needed the reminder today to focus on the why!

  11. Love this post! You are so spot on. Knowing your why is only half the battle. And nowadays with all the "hacks" available it is so easy to take a short cut. Thank you friend for this encouragement!

  12. So many people know their why but not what to do with it! Love this reminder to keep going.

  13. Love this Kristin! Finding your why is always so important. Because we are all different and our goals and dreams will be different and our paths to getting their will certainly be different. As you would say, "embrace your weird" <3

  14. I love this, I agree it is so important to remember your "why"

  15. This is so encouraging! I love all of your reminders. I am so easily shut down when things dont go as planned. Thank you!

  16. Wise words. It's also okay if your dreams change as life goes along. While I attained my childhood dream, I definitely didn't think through whether I really wanted that lifestyle.

  17. This post was very encouraging and right on time. Learning not to conform to how everyone else does things is a main key. We try so hard to find our niche in blogging and our voice amongst millions of other bloggers that we try to use the same steps they did and then we start to get unorganized and start to have the same voice as others. Be yourself and never look at your peripheral when building your dreams. You'll always feel like you're not measuring up to your peers or others in your field. Loved this!

  18. Holding onto that dream can be so hard. But I love getting little reminders like this to keep on hoping and reaching for it. It is so exciting seeing what God will do.

  19. This post came at a great time! I often struggle with negative thoughts that tell me I'm never going to live the life I want, but that doesn't mean I should stop trying. It would feel amazing to prove them - and anyone else who doesn't believe in me - wrong. My biggest source of motivation is definitely the "why"; whenever I feel like giving up, I think of all the things I'm working towards and am reminded of how it will all be worth it in the end!


  20. Really awesome blog post and very inspiring! Keep going and don't let anything stop you :)